I have one good friend who has pledged to kick me if I say anything that dumb again, but sadly, she was in another continent while I had this conversation. All I can do is offer up this 90 second montage.
Contrary to appearances here on BlogSchmog, my writing hasn’t completely disappeared. It has been displaced.
The missing piece of all these discipline systems is skill. None of them assess whether or not the children actually possess the skills they need to meet the expectations set before them. None of these reward charts actually teach problem-solving skills, emotional regulation or communication, so while they are possibly effective in the short-term, they are woefully lacking in the long term.
Possibly not my best day parenting ever, but if I believed in grades, and in lame reassurances for failed attempts, I’d give myself an A for effort.
We’ve worked at keeping track of those precious kid conversations over the years- but it’s hard to take the time. Twitter has made it even easier because I can jot down the smaller tidbits that would otherwise get lost.
I am a big fan of transparency and the ability for sharing to enhance your life, but I am not comfortable gambling with my son’s identity. A balance needs to be struck.
It was one of those accidents that gives every parent nightmares about head and neck injuries. It was also the best moment of his entire life.